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It costs the most permissive parents much more, but deep down they know that discipline is necessary, and that it is achieved with a series of rules and limits that our children must respect. But ... how do we get it? How can we impose discipline so that we don't seem too authoritarian?
The famous American pediatrician Ari Brown, gives us up 8 keys to discipline your children ... with success!
1. Set a good example: Younger children learn more in the visual field. They watch. Words at a young age do not have as much impact as actions. Remember that you are a role model for your children, so it is essential that you teach them certain guidelines and norms with examples. Be the first to fulfill them. If you don't insult yourself, don't insult. If you have to collect after playing, collect your things after using them ...
2. Be realistic: Don't ask your child for impossible things either. You must take into account their age. If you ask a 2-year-old to put his clothes in the closet ... he usually doesn't. Your expectations should always be based on what your child can achieve according to his age.
3. Don't overuse sermons: You should be more patient and scold less. In the end, everything that is asked loses effect if it is demanded too often or you end up screaming for it. Also, remember that the volume of your voice is not what is important, but the tone. Pediatrician Ari Brown assures us that we achieve better results if instead of shouting, we use a firm tone, accompanied by an energetic look.
4. Correct on the spot: If you scold your child in the afternoon for something he did in the morning, perhaps he has forgotten what he did, and does not understand the 'sermon', which is late and wrong. You must correct bad behavior on the spot, and not wait until it is too late. And remember, the action is corrected, not the child. Do not use that helpful 'how bad you are', but rather a 'what you did is wrong'.
5. Reinforce some behavior and ignore others: Find out what behavior of your child you want to reinforce. It is a positive technique that works. If you encourage what the child does well, he will want to do everything well ... to get more incentives or rewards (which do not have to be material). You come to tell him that his effort to do things well pays off.
6. Be aware of what you ask and above all, be constant: There is no use asking your child to pick up his toys after using them if the next day you let him leave them lying ... and the next ... and the next day the next. Obviously, the norm loses effect.
7. Don't forget to compliment your child when he does well: We like to be told that we are on the right track. To adults, too .. That encourages us and generates more self-esteem. Why don't you tell your kids more often? All you have to do is say 'hey, how well you did ... much better than yesterday!'
8. Remind him that you love him: Based somewhat on the famous 'sandwich' technique, if at first we say something good to our son, then what he does wrong and must change, and we end up telling him how much we love him, our son will understand that what you are asking of them it is for their sake. You love him, he does things well, you've already told him ... but there is something that needs to change. Don't you think it will be more effective than if you just tell it to change day after day?
This famous North American pediatrician bases her explanations in the so-called positive discipline. The defenders of this type of education remember that limits and norms should be established but never abuse the 'No' (the 'No' would be used only to avoid a risk to the health of our child or that of another child, in the case of example of him being hit) and stay away from yelling and physical punishment.
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